Shy people have many of the same symptoms as people with social anxiety disorder (SAD), but to a lesser degree.Most shy people learn to adapt to their surroundings and play a role in a world dominated by extroverts and extroverts.
At the same time, if you are shy, it is easy to be disappointed in yourself; it seems that other people are doing better socially than you. At such times, it is helpful to consider some of the benefits or advantages of being shy.
These may not immediately come to mind, but they do for many shy people. If you are overcoming SAD and are still struggling with shy tendencies, this list of 10 good things about shyness may also help.
Your modesty is very attractive
Many shy people are very humble; you are the last to announce your achievements or let the world know your amazing things. You may avoid compliments or downplay your positive qualities.
Although too much humility can erode self-esteem, a healthy dose is considered by many to be an attractive feature.
At the same time, you need to be careful not to cross the line from modesty to self-deprecating. Here are five tips for making modesty work for you:
- Accept compliments gracefully
- Recognize when you have achieved important achievements, rather than downplay these things because of “luck”
- If you feel that you are being used, stand up for yourself (reading confidently)
- Praise others (may feel strange at first, as if you don’t have the “right” to decide what is good or bad
- Seek truth from facts, don’t think things are good or bad
Think before you act
If you are shy or socially anxious, you may tend to take a look before jumping. This feature may be helpful when it comes to many life decisions.Thinking and planning carefully before taking action is important for many life obstacles, including
- Plan for the unexpected
- Avoid unnecessary risks
- Set long-term goals
In support of this theory, a 2011 study comparing the behavior of human children and apes showed that human children exhibit more shy-related behaviors than apes (they are less likely to be exposed to new things).This shows that we, as humans, may have developed our learning ability before overcoming this shy tendency.
At the same time, this tendency to think long and hard before taking action should be alleviated. If you are afraid of taking the opportunity to hinder you, sometimes it is better to take a step and believe that things will succeed (or if they don’t, you can deal with it).
You look more approachable
When shyness is not extreme, it can make you more approachable in front of others. Shyness and the accompanying nature of modesty and modesty rarely pose a threat to others and may make people feel more at ease around you. In other words, you don’t have a sense of superiority that makes it difficult to talk to you.
Too much shyness can make you appear cold or indifferent. If this is a problem for you, try simple things such as smiling to people or saying “hi” to show that you are not conceited, but just shy.
You have a calming effect
Shy people sometimes have a calming effect on emotionally stressed people. Although you may experience inner turmoil as a shy person, your appearance may be a calm or even keel appearance. This ability to be calm and “not responding” may have a positive effect on those around you.
However, if you are indeed experiencing inner turmoil, it is important to realize that sometimes it is okay to ask for help. If your shyness means you have to wear a mask, see if opening up to someone about how you feel makes a difference.
You are doing a good job in human service
Do you work in a human service position? If so, and if you are shy, then your personality may be well suited to be a considerate listener;Being shy makes it easier for others to open up to you.
You look more trustworthy
Since you don’t brag about your clarion call, and you are not the first to tell everyone about your achievements, others may find you more credible and trustworthy. This can also make you a better leader.
You have the ability to overcome
If you have struggled with shyness all your life, then you will know what it means to fight, endure, and overcome difficulties. Without your struggle with shyness, you would not develop the ability to cope with the difficulties of life.
You build a deeper friendship
Chances are, when you try to build friendships, they are deep and lasting.
Because making friends is not easy, you may value the friends you have more. In addition, your tendency to avoid small talk means that your friendship cannot be superficial.
You like to work alone
Many jobs require the ability to concentrate in a solitary environment; this is where some shy people find them thriving. Not having too many social connections means you have less interference and less need to verify what you are doing in the eyes of others.
You experience rewards more fully
Studies have shown that the brains of shy people respond more strongly to negative and positive stimuli.This means that although you find that social situations are more threatening than outgoing peers, you may also find positive situations more valuable. Your increased sensitivity to rewards may mean that you will find it more valuable to work towards your goals.
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Daily shyness that does not prevent you from achieving goals or participating in life can have its advantages. However, severe shyness or social anxiety that interferes with daily functioning is not helpful and is not something you have to endure. If severe social anxiety is a problem for you, be sure to consult your doctor to refer him to a mental health professional.