Raising a teenager, even in the best circumstances, can be a challenge. However, if you have a troubled teenager on hand, adolescence can be very turbulent.
Whether you are dealing with curfew violations and truancy, or worrying about drug abuse and legal issues, worrying about problematic teenagers will keep you awake at night. You may get tired of dealing with behavior problems, mood swings, outbursts of anger, or covert behaviors.
Parents of adolescents in trouble must learn how to balance the needs of adolescents with their own needs. Exhausted parents have to find ways to supplement themselves, which is often put aside when dealing with high-risk teenagers.
If you want to stay at your best, it is important to take care of yourself. Charging the battery will ensure that you are able to deal with troubled teenagers.
Plead not guilty
Acknowledge that you are exhausted from dealing with your child’s troubles. Don’t feel guilty, don’t blame yourself.
This is normal, you are a human being, and dealing with anyone who is difficult to get along with is a challenge. When the difficult person lives in your house and depends on you, it will be more exhausted.
Admit it to others. Whether it’s a friend, family member or therapist, it helps to talk about your feelings. Listening to external perspectives may help you see what you are missing because you are so close to the problem.
Arrange time to take care of yourself
Make sure your to-do list includes taking care of yourself. Make time to attend your own medical appointments and take care of your health.
And make sure you arrange the time for leisure activities. Whether you are having a cup of coffee with a friend or signing up for a course you want to take, please set aside some time to do what you like to do.
It’s easy to put yourself last. However, self-care is an important part of caring for others. Therefore, arrange a little time for yourself every day, and set aside at least a few times a month for enjoyable activities.
Try to talk to other parents in similar situations. Consider participating in a support group in person or online.
Support groups have a long history of providing assurance and a sense of community for people dealing with similar issues. Parent support groups are designed to exchange information, reduce stress and help find ways to cope.
It is like being guided, supported, educated and cared by other parents on the same boat. Other parents raising troubled teenagers will understand your pressure and talking to them will be helpful.
Practice mindfulness skills
It may find it tempting to retell everything that went wrong yesterday or worry about everything that might go wrong tomorrow. But it doesn’t help to worry too much.
Learn mindfulness skills so you can be here and now. Mindfulness techniques can quiet your brain and help you gain a sense of peace, even in chaos.
Take care of your body
When you are exhausted, exercise may be the last thing you think of, but moving your body is full of energy. It also keeps you healthy and helps you think more clearly.
Therefore, take regular walks, lift weights, or sign up for classes. Taking care of your physical health will help you best manage your mental health.
Ensuring adequate sleep is also very important. Staying up late and exhausted will only complicate your problems.
Seek professional help
Don’t hesitate to talk to a mental health professional. Talking to a therapist can help you find coping strategies and stress management techniques.
When you show that you value taking care of yourself and your mental health, you will also be a good role model for your children.
If you think that talking to a mental health professional can benefit you, please consult your doctor.