The last Saturday of October provides us with a special anniversary: National Forgiveness Day. July 7 is celebrated as the Global Day of Forgiveness. These are great opportunities to remind ourselves of the importance of forgiveness, to value the forgiveness that others have given us in the past, and to focus on forgiving those we may need to forgive-including ourselves.
For many reasons, it is important to focus on forgiveness. Persisting that anger hurts us more than it hurts the angry object. Unresolved anger can cause health problems, just like uncontrolled stress.It also robs us of our happiness.
However, knowing it is harmful does not always make the anger magically dissipate. Sometimes it’s really hard to forgive.
Why is forgiveness so difficult?
Forgiveness in practice is more challenging than forgiveness in theory for several reasons. Some of the more common reasons (and rebuttals) are:
- They are not worth it. We think that the other party is not worthy of our forgiveness.They may not, but we Should be free from anger.
- The pain is still fresh. When we think of forgiving each other, we remember what they did, and we get angry again. As we work hard to accept what happened, this response will become less intense over time, but it may indicate that we need to work harder to forgive-for ourselves, not for them.
- We believe that forgiveness means recognition. We think that forgiving the other party is equivalent to saying that what they did is no problem, or welcoming them to do it again. This is not true. Forgiveness should be accompanied by protecting yourself from future harm.
The role of National Forgiveness Day
So why is there a special day for forgiveness? We are free to forgive others at any time, and usually the best time is when you realize that you have been angry.
However, there are some methods that do help to focus on forgiveness on a special day:
- Official reminder: When we persist in anger, sometimes we do not realize that we are ready to forgive. Spending a special day and encouraging us to look inward can help us get to that place or realize that we are already there.
- Motivation from the group. It also helps to be motivated and motivated to overcome the personal obstacles we forgive. Focusing on a day of forgiveness—a day that encourages everyone to celebrate—can provide motivation and motivation at the same time.
- A new start for the holidays. When the holidays approach, we may meet family and friends we haven’t seen for a long time. It is a good thing to clear any anger we may have, so that we can celebrate in a fresh and loving place.
What to do on National Forgiveness Day
So how do people celebrate National Forgiveness Day or any day we decide to celebrate as our own Forgiveness Day? By forgiving anyone and everyone we might get angry. Here are some more specific ideas:
- Take a moment to think about anyone you might be angry with, even if that anger is not new. Then decided to let go.
- If there are a lot of things to forgive, then temporarily put aside as many things as possible, and then continue to work hard.
Think about who you might want to forgive. Sometimes this may be easy, but in other situations, you may hold anger for a long time. Some people you might want to consider:
- If you have maintained your childhood anger, please forgive your parents.
- If you have some childhood experiences that still make you angry, please forgive those who grew up with you.
- If you have any relationship baggage, please forgive your spouse or partner. If you feel unforgivable because you are afraid of being hurt again, realize that anger itself is hurting you, but you can take steps to change your relationship and the way you treat it.
- Please forgive yourself if you feel spontaneously angry about anything, such as a goal you didn’t achieve, a promise you didn’t fulfill, or a mistake you made in the past.
If you cannot reach a place where you can forgive someone or something in the past, and insist that the related pain and anger affect your health, you may want to consider working with a professional. Sometimes there are deeper problems that need to be solved, and professional support can make this process easier and faster.
It is important to remember that you can create your own “Day of Forgiveness” as long as it works for you. If anger prevents you from letting go and moving on, consider choosing a day to focus on forgiveness.
How to let go and forgive
Forgiveness can be a relief, but easier said than done. Some things that might help:
- Remember, forgiveness does not mean approval: forgiveness means letting go of anger and accepting what happened.But it does no Means to condone this behavior, you can definitely forgive and Take steps to protect yourself in the future. You can even give up the relationship, but you can still forgive it.
- Express your feelings: This may involve talking to the other person, but if the other person is unwilling to admit the harm they caused, it may not always be productive. Instead, try to write your feelings in a diary or letter. Don’t send a letter, but write down your experience and how forgiveness will help you move on.
- Think about what you will get: Don’t meditate on negative experiences, but focus on what you will get by letting go of your anger. It will keep you going and direct your energy to things that can bring you happiness and satisfaction.