It is not uncommon for children with ADHD to react to anger. These children may have difficulty managing and regulating their emotions. They may also be allergic. A stressful or frustrating situation quickly transforms into intense anger. It is also difficult for children with ADHD to stop and think before reacting.
As a parent, it is difficult to see your child lose control. Although we cannot make anger go away, we can help our children to better control these strong reactions.
Pay attention to what caused the child’s anger collapse. Is there a specific time in the day when anger will reach its peak? Is there any pattern? Sometimes there may be anger:
- You may notice that the time after school is the most difficult because your child is able to relax his vigilance and release depressed emotions.
- It may be when they feel hungry or tired.
- There may be some triggers that make your child feel frustrated, just like when frustrated with tasks.
- In addition, the time it takes for the drug to disappear may be the most difficult.
As you become more aware of the triggers, you can begin to intervene before the anger completely erupts. Become a peaceful being. If your child responds well to physical contact, rub their back or arms. Encourage them to take a deep breath and count to 10. Do this with them to help demonstrate this calming technique.
Overtime is not necessarily punitive. In fact, it shouldn’t be. Pauses are a great way to get your child out of negative situations and take some time to calm down.
Approaching timeout in this way. Choose a time that makes your child happy and settled down, and discuss with them how to use the time. Keep your children away from the hustle and bustle of the family and choose a designated lounge chair to give them a sense of control. Now they will understand how to use it when needed.
When your child needs a timeout, provide guidance by walking with them to the designated suspension chair. When they are sitting on a chair (or stand next to the chair if the action helps), practice deep breathing exercises with them. Don’t try to discuss the situation with them until they have calmed down and settled down.
Praise your child for using the time to calm down and then spend some time talking about what happened. If anger causes your child to respond by breaking the crayons and dividing them into two parts, ask them what they could do differently to express their feelings in a less harmful and more productive way.
Pay attention to your tone and the calmness of the model. Praise for suggesting a positive alternative solution.
When you notice that your child is starting to feel frustrated, please reflect on their feelings. “That puzzle is really hard! I think it makes you feel a little frustrated.” When you do this, you will help your child understand their own feelings better.
As awareness increases, you can help your child mark their feelings. If you learn from the teacher that your child did not get along well with his peers that day, please take the time to talk to them about how it feels. Help your children express how they feel about you in words.
Providing your children with options can give them a sense of control. If you know that your child is having difficulties with transitions such as cleaning up time, please help them through this time by providing options. “Do you clean the blocks first or the car first?”
Just make sure to limit the number of choices to two or three. Too many choices can make children feel overwhelmed or over-stimulated.
Make sure your child has enough sleep
Children with ADHD/ADHD usually have trouble sleeping. When children do not get enough sleep, they will be more irritable and moody, more difficult to tolerate stress, more likely to be depressed, and the overall symptoms of daytime ADHD/ADHD will be worse.
Model yourself for good anger management
It is difficult for children with ADHD/ADHD to regulate their emotions, but the more you can do to help your children understand how they feel and understand alternative, more positive ways of responding, the better. One way is through examples. Lead by example, not only to respond in an appropriate way, but also to talk throughout the process so that your child can understand better.
Go to the library to pick some books that can solve emotional problems, especially emotions related to anger, frustration, rejection, isolation, sadness, or any other difficult emotions your child often experiences. Ask the librarian for advice. Read these stories with your child and discuss their feelings. Discuss how the character handles emotions.
How did the characters react? Will they react differently? How would you react to the same situation? Solve the problem together and discuss the positive steps that the role can take.
Spend a special time together
Make sure you set aside a fixed time every day for one-on-one communication with your child. Let this time become positive, loving and nourishing. Children with ADHD/ADHD often experience a negative side. They need to know that they are valued and loved. As a parent, you can play an important role in your child’s positive self-awareness. The special time with you is very precious.